Dads and daughters…..it’s a relationship not quite like any other. It can be tender, irritating, priceless and maddening, all within a 30 second window. Fathers play lots of different roles in the lives of their children, and whether for better or worse, dads are teachers. These are some things my Dad is still teaching me.
Be kind. Try stuff. Go ahead and fail. It’s OK. It’s how we learn. He taught me to wonder about how and why things work. (I usually prefer to happily enjoy what works without thinking so hard about it.) Listen to people. Work hard. Also take time to play, but play hard. People matter. Stuff doesn’t. Be generous. When you see something that needs to be done, do it. When you see someone who needs help, you be the one to help them. Do the right thing because it’s the right thing, not so that someone will notice or acknowledge that you did something good. Be gracious.
And then there is the father of my children….no longer with us, but still teaching both me and them. These are just a few of the precious lessons he still teaches.
Laugh often. Listen to people. Laugh at yourself. Work hard. Take time for pretend tea parties. Notice people that others don’t. Listen to people. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Be kind. Do your best. Did I say listen to people? Listen to people others get tired of listening to. Laughter is the best stress reliever and ice breaker. Take care of the people you love. Listen…..and laugh…..those are the most powerful things he still teaches me every day when I miss and remember him.
Find something you appreciate about your dad or another father figure in your life. Then tell them specifically what that is and how it changes you. Tell them now, while you have the chance. Happy Father’s Day to all dads, to those “still hoping to be dads” and to all those who are healthy examples of how to be a man for the generations coming behind them!